Saturday, November 29, 2008

[TeenMinistry] Sunday - Sr. High

Hello All – praying you had (are having) a great Thanksgiving weekend with family and friends.

 

Our family will be hanging out in Indy through Sunday so the Sr. High Guys and Gals will be meeting in the Teen Room together on Sunday morning.  Wade will be leading the class.

 

Looking forward to seeing you all Wednesday evening.  We will be going to the nursing home so be there at  PM.

 

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

[TeenMinistry] Sunday - Sr. High

Hello All – praying you had (are having) a great Thanksgiving weekend with family and friends.

 

Our family will be hanging out in Indy through Sunday so the Sr. High Guys and Gals will be meeting in the Teen Room together on Sunday morning.  Wade will be leading the class.

 

Looking forward to seeing you all Wednesday evening.  We will be going to the nursing home so be there at  PM.

 

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

Friday, November 21, 2008

[TeenMinistry] Teen Christmas Party

Mark your calendars

  • RSVP - Please let ME know you are coming (you can do this on Facebook or e-mail me back) by Wednesday night, December 3

 

 

Friday, December 5, 2008

6:00 – 9:30 PM

AT the Crowns - 4623 Thundercreek Rd. Eureka, MO 63025

            Click HERE for the Map

 

BRING:

  • $5
  • Youth Group Appropriate Christmas Gift ($5 gift - bring it wrapped)

 

THERE WILL BE:

  • Christmas Gift Exchange
  • Games & Guitar Hero Tournament
  • Good Food
  • Fun

 

Transportation – meet there.  If a parent would like to drive a van from the building, please let me know.  This would be very helpful (if you drive, you can stay around, we’ll even feed you)

 

 

 

 

Friday, November 14, 2008

[TeenMinistry] Twilight

Parents – Especially MOMS.

As Wade is sharing in his Sermon Series – “Going Against the Flow”, the flow of our culture is constantly pushing against us.  As time passes the current gets stronger.  Satan will have us think that being “worldly” is not so bad as long as “I can put it into context” and I don’t really do “those things”.  Over and over again in scripture we are reminded that so much of our battle as Christians begins in the mind.  If the Evil One can just get us to marginalize our thoughts, we become easy prey (1 Peter 5:8)

 

Several of you have shared your concerns with me so I have been trying to inform myself (and my family).  Below is a review of the most recent pop-culture rave concerning the Twilight Series books and now the movie that is coming out next week.  The line in the review that grabs my attention is Even though the Mormon author doesn't allow Edward and Bella to have sex before marriage, she may be a bit naïve about what tends to happen when passionate teenagers get alone in a field.   From the preview, the movie seems to take it a step further. In one clip, Bella is seen in her underwear kissing Edward in the bedroom. As a parent, how would you react to this reality?”  

 

As a parent, you will have to decide if this is a cue from culture you are willing for your daughters (and sons) to take into her (his) mind.  I find that the more information I have when making a decision, the better decision I can make.  I hope you will take the 5 minutes it takes to read this review, to better inform yourself so that no matter what decision you make, it’s made on your principles and not what culture says is the norm.

 

Eph 5:3

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

Youth Culture Window

 

I'm in Love with a Vampire
The Subtle Messages of Twilight
An article from Jonathan McKee and David R. Smith at TheSource4YM.com


TwilightWhat happens when a 17-year-old girl falls helplessly in love with the sexiest boy in the world… who's also a vampire?

Millions of dollars are made off the story.

Such is the pop culture phenomenon known as Twilight. Seventeen million copies of the books have been sold worldwide, and midnight showings for the upcoming movie are selling out.

But what is this story really teaching young people about love?

Romeo and Juliet Meets Bram Stoker

When Bella Swan leaves her mom in sunny Phoenix to move in with her chief-of-police dad in dreary Forks, Washington, she meets Edward Cullens, the most mysterious and handsome guy she's ever seen. She couldn't take her eyes off him… and he couldn't take his mind off her. Not only was she smitten with love, but she was in danger of being bitten as well. After all, Edward was a vampire.

That's right, a vampire.

But that didn't seem to bother Bella very much. She says,

"About three things I was absolutely positive. First, Edward was a vampire. Second, there was a part of him – and I didn't know how dominant that part might be – that thirsted for my blood. And third, I was unconditionally and irrevocably in love with him."

The rest of the 512 page novel, Twilight, tells the story of these two star-crossed lovers as they seek to understand their emotions for one another, and engage in a life-and-death battle against a coven of evil vampires.  

The story has captivated a global audience and has claimed some very prestigious accolades since its release in late 2005. It's been a #1 New York Times Bestseller and was voted "Best Book of the Year" by Publishers Weekly. Teen People made it their "Hot Pick," and since then, the novel has been translated into twenty different languages. This is worthy of some celebration in light of the recent decline in teen reading. Not since the Harry Potter books have so many teens had their noses in a book.

Edward and Bella's tale doesn't end on the last page of Twilight, however. When her first book sold millions of copies, Brigham Young educated author Stephanie Meyers did what any writer would do. She wrote another one….

and another one…

and another...

And so, the Twilight Saga was born, and teen and tween readers, mostly female, have been captivated since page one.

A Scary Love Story
I grabbed a copy of Twilight to see what the buzz was about, and I must say, it was a good enough read that I tore through it in a few hours. It's your typical "boy meets girl, saves girl's life, falls in love with girl, saves girl's life again" young adult romance novel… but with a vampire.

Twilight ActorsMeyers provides readers with a (somewhat) original twist on the whole vampire legend in her story. Her vampires have a "superfluous" amount of superhuman abilities and can survive in sunlight; plus, there are good vampires as well as evil ones. Meyers also does an excellent job with suspense and cliff hangers, so I stayed up past midnight feverishly flipping pages to find out what happens in the end.

If books were rated like films, Twilight would probably land at PG-13, with minimal swearing (a couple of "damns") and a wee bit of violence. The sensuality is what helped push Twilight to the PG-13 mark. The MPAA seemed to agree concerning the upcoming film, rating it PG-13 for "some violence and a scene of sensuality." You can watch one of the TV spots to judge for yourself.

Subtle Messages
Many people in religious circles are worried about the "vampire" elements in the books. But our chief concern gravitated more toward Bella's emotional vulnerability and the graphic sensuality described in the romantic scenes between she and Edward. We're not talking Harlequin Romance material, but it was enough to make me wonder how young readers would react to the content. For instance, in one scene in her upstairs bathroom, Bella found herself regretting leaving her Victoria Secret silk pajamas in Arizona while Edward waited in her bedroom. In the book, nothing sexual happens, but we catch a pretty accurate glimpse into the thought process of the modern teenager.

Today's young girls will most definitely identify with Bella's concern for self image and consistent need for validation. In the books Bella is portrayed as very plain. Most girls can relate to this. Seven in ten girls feel they do not measure up in some way, including their looks and in relationships.

What about the sensuality?

Parents are going to have to be the judge if they want their 12-year-old girls absorbing Meyers' descriptions.

In chapter 13 of the book, Bella describes a private moment in a meadow with Edward.

Slowly, never moving his eyes from mine, he leaned toward me. Then abruptly, but very gently, he rested his cold check against the hollow at the base of my throat. I was quite unable to move, even if I'd wanted to. I listened to the sound of his even breathing, watching the sun and wind play in his bronze hair, more human than any other part of him.

With deliberate slowness, his hands slid down the sides of my neck. I shivered, and I heard him catch his breath. But his hands didn't pause as they softly moved to my shoulders, and then stopped.

His face drifted to the side, his nose skimming across my collarbone. He came to rest with the side of his face pressed tenderly against my chest.

Listening to my heart.

And a little later in the same scene…

And then his cold, marble lips pressed very softly against mine.

What neither of us was prepared for was my response.

Blood boiled under my skin, burned in my lips. My breath came in a wild gasp. My fingers knotted in his hair, clutching him to me. My lips parted as I breathed in his heady scent.

Believe it or not, this scene is actually what prompted Meyers to write the book in the first place. On her official website, she gives an unusual explanation for the origin of the entire story line…a dream.

In my dream, two people were having an intense conversation in a meadow in the woods. One of these people was just your average girl. The other person was fantastically beautiful, sparkly, and a vampire. They were discussing the difficulties inherent in the facts that A) they were falling in love with each other while B) the vampire was particularly attracted to the scent of her blood, and was having a difficult time restraining himself from killing her immediately.

In spite of these steamy scenes, the lead characters actually remain chaste. Even though the Mormon author doesn't allow Edward and Bella to have sex before marriage, she may be a bit naïve about what tends to happen when passionate teenagers get alone in a field.

Twilight ScreenshotFrom the preview, the movie seems to take it a step further. In one clip, Bella is seen in her underwear kissing Edward in the bedroom. As a parent, how would you react to this reality?

Interestingly enough, it seems that many parents aren't all that concerned with the amount of sensuality, because in this story, it doesn't lead to sex. But what message does this mentality send to our kids? (There's been a lot of debate about these messages lately.)

The studio producing the film, Summit Entertainment, is hoping that the absence of sex scenes will expand its marketability to young kids. According to this Advertising Age article (subscription required), Summit is "counting on an unexpected group to help evangelize the film beyond its pubescent base: moms." The studio won't be disappointed, because PG-13 is deemed "okay" by most parents today.

"No sex? Oh, it must be clean, then."

What's Our Role?
There are lots of points to consider when deciding if our kids should read this book and/or watch the movie.

First, we must remember to monitor our kids' reading material in addition to their media choices. The Internet is not the only place where kids come across unhealthy messages. Reading engages the mind in a different way than music, TV, or movies; there's much more imagination involved. Knowing that reading makes an impact on our kids, let's be sure to keep an eye on what our kids have on their book shelves.

Secondly, let's note that kids are devouring a book that focuses on love, passion, and romance. Young readers have questions; this book provides answers. Unless you want your kids to only hear Edward and Bella's take on the subject, speak up. Love and romance are issues that most teens struggle to understand. We must be prepared to wade through those questions with them in search of answers. If that means we have to read a few chapters from these books to discover a way to initiate a conversation about love, romance, or even sex with our teens, so be it. Remember to focus on asking questions, rather than giving lectures.  

Finally, as popular as these books are, the film will reach a much larger audience. While the book audience is mostly female, guys are already expressing interest in the film.

We encourage parents and anyone working with youth to go see this film and judge for yourselves. Twilight opens in theaters on November 21st, and The Source will post our review of the film on our movie review page that weekend. The highly anticipated movie is directed by Catherine Hardwicke, whose film debut was the sobering movie Thirteen, which she also wrote. Her later works, Lord's of Dogtown and The Nativity Story demonstrate Hardwicke's ability to present a story about young people to today's youth.

Twilight is a love story with a bite. If we proactively engage our kids concerning love and romance, maybe we can help guide them to answers to some of the questions raised by the story. Twilight's tagline is, "When you can live forever what do you live for?"

What answer does the movie provide?

What are your kids' answers to that question?

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Jonathan McKeeJonathan McKee, president of The Source for Youth Ministry, is the author of numerous youth ministry books including the brand new 10-Minute Talks, and the award winning books Do They Run When They See You Coming? and Getting Students to Show Up. He speaks and trains at camps, conferences, and events across North America, and provides free resources for youth workers internationally on his website, TheSource4YM.com.

 

David R. SmithDavid R. Smith is the Director of Content Development at TheSource4YM.com, providing truly free resources and ideas that help youth workers reach kids. David speaks and trains around the U.S., sharing the gospel, and equipping others to do the same.





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Thursday, November 13, 2008

[TeenMinistry] Leadership Training for Christ -

If you are planning on participating in LTC (Leadership Training for Christ), please have your forms turned in by this Sunday, November 16.

 

We need to make sure we can find coaches for the events everyone wants to participate in.

 

Attached is the informational letter and the student registration form

 

If you have any questions, please contact Dawn Portwood or Whitney deSambourg

 

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

[TeenMinistry] TLC - Training Leaders for Christ

High Schoolers – here is the information for TLC. 

 

By definition, leaders do not need reminding, coddling, prodding, guilt-ed, badgered, bribed or coerced…this will be your only reminder to get your stuff in.  You DO NEED TO get a recommendation from me (I said Wednesday night you didn’t).  The van will leave at 6 PM on Friday night, January 23 and we will return by 11:30 AM on Sunday, January 25.

 

 

 

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

[TeenMinistry] HELP!!! - Teen House

Teens AND PARENTS –

 

The guys could use help spackling and mudding this Saturday morning beginning at 8 AM.  If you can’t come at 8, come anytime in the morning and someone should be there.  The guys are making good progress…PLEASE come be a part of it!

 

 

 

 

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

[TeenMinistry] Teen Devo & Movie Night at the Keims - more info

A little more information on Friday night at the Keims.

 

  • Transportation is on your own. (starts @ 6:30 and ends at 10 PM)
  • Here is a link to the map
  • $7 includes snacks, pizza and drinks

 

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

[TeenMinistry] Lock-in Bad News / Good News

·       The bad news is that McKnight (Jimmy) cancelled their lock-in so we are un-invited. (they had only 2 people sign up)

o      The good news is that the Keims have agreed to host us.

·       The bad news is we are not going bowling

o      The good news is we are doing a Youth Group Devotional and Movie Night

·       The bad news is we are not having a lock-in nor are we staying all night (this is only bad news to some)

o      The good news is that we are invited from 6:30 to 10 PM

·       The bad news is you still have to pay

o      The good news is it’s only $7 OR a bag of canned food full regular plastic bag

o      The good-er news (I know it’s supposed to be “better”) is more of you can come

o      The better news is we had 18 signed up to go!

o      The Best news is you can sign up tonight on the teen room door

o      The Best-est news is that no matter the event we have a great opportunity to be together!

o      The most awesome news is that if you are in Christ you are forgiven!

 

 

Summary:

·       Devo & Movie at the Keims

·       6:30 10 PM

·       Bring $7 OR a plastic bag full of canned food for Circle of Concern

·       God is awesome!

 

 

 

Because of the Cross,

Mike

 

 

 

Mike Brown

Youth & Family Minister

Lafayette Church of Christ

115 New Ballwin Rd.

Ballwin, MO  63021

636.391.6697 - office

636.394.2338 - fax

mike.brown@lafayettechurch.org

 

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

[TeenMinistry] Nursing Home

Tonight is our monthly trip to Meramec Bluffs Nursing Home.  Be there early…The rides leave at 7:00 PM.  We should be back by 8:00 PM